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10-31-05
It will be up
to you to determine how what has been placed here applies to you and your life's situation.
While this may seem at
first to be about a love/romantic situation, which would certainly apply, it is far more than that. There are many people
within various relationships that we must leave in our lifetime as well as situations, places or things we will be called
to leave as we grow and move on to different phases of our lives and evolvement.
Most of what has been written about
here has to do with the emotional aspects of loving someone as this seems to be the most problematic area in our lives for
most of us, however, there are many things that we are asked to leave behind us as we grow and develop such as beliefs,hopes
and dreams, as well as family members & friends through disagreements, changes in geographical locations or death. We
leave jobs and co-workers, have financial reversals, changes in standards of living and bodies that age and become less stable
and healthy as they cycle down for the end of life. We lose our beloved pets and many more loses that we are confronted with
while living a whole and balanced life.
I feel that loses ARE a part of normal and balanced living and that without
them, we would have a difficult time accepting and appreciating what it is we DO HAVE in our lives. After we suffer a few
loses that really hurt, we don't become so quick to dismiss, undermine, destroy what it is we do have. We quickly learn, or
hopefully we do, that it's flawed thinking to expect that our lives be filled with privileges and ease. So when those wonderful
times come to us, that fill our hearts with love, gratitude and all the other warm fuzzies, we should do all that we can to
consistenly nourish and protect them...not just take them for granted. Finding someone we can love, be it family, friends
or a lover isn't a given ~ it's so very special. And when we find they love us in return, it's a treasure.
Consider
all of the human life on the planet and consider how many of these people we will ever meet. Then consider of these people,
how many will we be genuinely able to love and have that love returned. When looked at from this perspective, to find yourself
in love with someone and having that love returned is simply a gift. It's easy to 'like' many, but not so easy 'to profoundly
and truly love another'. It's a gift ~ cherish and protect it for the time that it's in your life. There are no guarantees
that this love will last or be with you or them forever.
It's never easy saying good-bye to what we value and hold
dear. Within ourselves we must find the grace and dignity enabling us to make lifes changes with acceptance and understanding.
It's a matter of attitude and perspectives. It's a personal choice how we choose to react to any given circumstance. We may
not like what we face, we may think it's unfair, cruel, heartbreaking, but how we weather our storms is a matter of personal
integrity and character.
Looking at the short list of losses above may allow us to be grateful and thankful for the
losses that do affect our lives....counting our blessings because things can always be worse and our situation(s) may not
be as bad as it seems. Just a few of my thoughts at this stage of my life, learned mostly the 'hard way' until I got smarter
about how things work.
PDPJ
11-19-05
I thought this project was only going to be the contents of the
'Insights' posting, but things have changed. Due to responses I've gotten and comments made, this project has already grown
far beyond that which I originally intended. Check back from time to time as new articles and thoughts will be added. PDPJ
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Several years ago,
I posted this piece in an online forum. This particular place turned out to be an important juncture in my personal growth
in several regards.
As I read it again, (and I refer to it from time to time when I need the comfort of these thoughts)
it is just as true and meaningful to me now as it was then.
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10-31-05
The
comment I made along with the posting ~
I have had some truly dear and wonderful people enter my life. Long before
I read this analysis, I knew that nothing is forever. I always wanted these important people to be with me always and had
to learn, time and again, that some people are only with us for a short time ~~ that life is short. Enjoy these people with
all that you have, love them with the most you have to offer and be willing to let them go when the time comes...being grateful
they passed your way at all.
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The
Posting :
Why People Meet as posted « on: 12/15/03 at 18:21:29 »
Why People meet.
People come into
your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do with each person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON. . . It is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to
assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are!
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without
any wrong doing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to
an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has
been answered. And now it is time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON it is because your turn
has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may teach you something
you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas
of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
Work like you don't need the money,
Love
like you've never been hurt,
And dance like no one is watching.
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