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My
Comments on this article:
Unless you have somewhat of a knowledge of metaphysics, this article may seem strange to you.
I found it to be interesting, though not particularly useful.
I'm including only due to it being different than the
normal discussions and thoughts that abound having to do with love relationships. PDPJ
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11-20-05
By Robert Burney
March 31, 2004
page 1
"In our disease
defense system we build up huge walls to protect ourselves and then - as soon as we meet someone who will help us to repeat
our patterns of abuse, abandonment, betrayal, and/or deprivation - we lower the drawbridge and invite them in. We, in our
Codependence, have radar systems which cause us to be attracted to, and attract to us, the people, who for us personally,
are exactly the most untrustworthy (or unavailable or smothering or abusive or whatever we need to repeat our patterns) individuals
- exactly the ones who will "push our buttons." This happens because those people feel familiar. Unfortunately in childhood
the people whom we trusted the most - were the most familiar - hurt us the most. So the effect is that we keep repeating our
patterns and being given the reminder that it is not safe to trust ourselves or other people."
"Western Civilization
(in reaction to earlier ages when it was out of balance to the other extreme of allowing superstition to rule) does not acknowledge
that multiple levels of reality exist and as a result, has been way out of balance towards the left brain way of thinking---rational,
logical, concrete, what you see is all there is. . . . . Because emotional energy could not be seen or measured or weighed,
and was not sanctioned by the AMA, emotions were discounted and devalued."
"It is because there is more than one level
of reality that life is paradoxical in nature. What is True and positive on one level - selfishness out of Spiritual Self,
can be negative on another level - selfishness out of ego-self. What a caterpillar calls the end of the world, God calls a
butterfly.
Humans have always had expressions that describe the paradoxical nature of the life experience. Every ending
is a beginning. Every cloud does have a silver lining. For every door that closes, another door does open. It is always darkest
before the dawn. Every obstacle is a gift, every problem is an opportunity for growth.
These are all expressions that
refer to the paradoxical nature of life - the seeming contradictions that are a result of the multiple levels of reality.
When we start to understand and recognize that there are multiple levels of reality, then we can begin to unravel the paradox
and see how all of the pieces fit together perfectly."
"What I have found is that in many instances even though the
levels that I can see, that I am conscious of, are mostly dysfunctional - arising out of the false beliefs and fears of the
disease of Codependence - on deeper levels there are "right on" reasons for behaviors for which I was judging myself. . .
. . . . And on a much deeper level I came to understand that I am - and have been, ever since polarization - looking for my
twin soul."
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http://www.suite101.com/article.cfm/codependency_recovery/107610/1
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